POWER OF VULNERABILITY 5
However, this assignment has been both paradigm-shifting and eye-opening. I have
appreciated the power and need to be vulnerable. I have come to the conclusion that the idea of
the “diva woman,” who does not expose her emotional side is archaic and should be discarded.
Vulnerability, in a relationship, allows the two to walk through the triumphs and pitfalls of life
and allows both of them to grow and mature psychologically.
Vulnerability, in a relationship, allows us to be ourselves and communicate our
intentions. Being vulnerable allows us to communicate our expectations in the relationship, e.g.,
do we want it to be a casual relationship or a serious relationship. Intentions and expectations are
what sustain relationships. Finkel et al. (2017) term intentions and expectations as the
“relationship-maintenance mechanisms.” Partners who express their expectations and intentions
in the relationship became more committed to realizing those expectations and in the long run,
end up cultivating long relationships with greater bonds.
Communicating my feelings is also another integral component of a relationship that I
have learned from this exercise. As a psychologist or just a plain person, communicating what I
feel will be crucial in my practice and personal life. My clients would like to connect with me on
an emotional level. If they are to open up, be vulnerable and communicate how they feel, I will
have to take the first step. Additionally, in relationships, our partners are bound to make
decisions or engage in certain actions that may not augur well with us. These decisions and
actions may spark a range of emotions within us, and it is only prudent to communicate them
with our partners lest the build-up shatters us from within. Therefore, to engage in these
discourses, we have to be vulnerable and sincere.